Comments on: VeryBadCat: How Low Self-Esteem Almost Ruined My Marriage http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/04/30/verybadcat-how-low-self-esteem-almost-ruined-my-marriage/ Helping you find your purpose and navigate your quarter-life crisis in style Thu, 29 Jul 2010 16:06:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: lisalisa http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/04/30/verybadcat-how-low-self-esteem-almost-ruined-my-marriage/#comment-19283 lisalisa Tue, 16 Jun 2009 04:57:27 +0000 http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/04/30/verybadcat-how-low-self-esteem-almost-ruined-my-marriage/#comment-19283 My partner ended our 10 year relationship 8 months ago, and I believe it had a lot to do with my low self esteem. I think he has a little too, although he always has a confident exterior. I am devastated. I miss him terribly. He's seeing someone else and has been for the last 5 months. The thing I feared the most happened - he left. I am starting to rebuild my life, but I love him. I have made some amazing changes, to my health, my finances, and gaining more confidence in my career path. Now I am starting to learn about and work on my self esteem. I just wish he would come back. I don't know if I should talk to him about this or just let it go. He is open to keeping in touch and wants to be friends. How do I look at him without feeling massive rejection, after 10 years...it wasn't worth trying for. Doesn't that validate my feelings about it? My partner ended our 10 year relationship 8 months ago, and I believe it had a lot to do with my low self esteem. I think he has a little too, although he always has a confident exterior.

I am devastated. I miss him terribly. He’s seeing someone else and has been for the last 5 months.

The thing I feared the most happened - he left.

I am starting to rebuild my life, but I love him. I have made some amazing changes, to my health, my finances, and gaining more confidence in my career path. Now I am starting to learn about and work on my self esteem. I just wish he would come back. I don’t know if I should talk to him about this or just let it go. He is open to keeping in touch and wants to be friends. How do I look at him without feeling massive rejection, after 10 years…it wasn’t worth trying for. Doesn’t that validate my feelings about it?

]]> By: ashley http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/04/30/verybadcat-how-low-self-esteem-almost-ruined-my-marriage/#comment-8191 ashley Wed, 05 Nov 2008 01:54:05 +0000 http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/04/30/verybadcat-how-low-self-esteem-almost-ruined-my-marriage/#comment-8191 well this is right because low self-esteem gives people a diffrent look on how you really are.people see you but not the real you because your low self-esteem is taking over your body and is destroying your life very slowly but shurely.theres people there that love you but i mean you just dont realize it cause your slowly just pushing them away and there the ones that you need because they will be there to get you through everything. and trust me your going to need them and your going to need there support and there love and there shoulder to cry on and them to fight with but there always going to be there. well this is right because low self-esteem gives people a diffrent look on how you really are.people see you but not the real you because your low self-esteem is taking over your body and is destroying your life very slowly but shurely.theres people there that love you but i mean you just dont realize it cause your slowly just pushing them away and there the ones that you need because they will be there to get you through everything.
and trust me your going to need them and your going to need there support and there love and there shoulder to cry on and them to fight with but there always going to be there.

]]> By: Aleta http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/04/30/verybadcat-how-low-self-esteem-almost-ruined-my-marriage/#comment-616 Aleta Thu, 01 May 2008 17:26:12 +0000 http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/04/30/verybadcat-how-low-self-esteem-almost-ruined-my-marriage/#comment-616 I appreciate the honesty in your post and applaud the changes you made with your self confidence. I find that sometimes it's hard for me to ask for help when needed, that I should be able to do things on my own and without bothering someone else for assistance. I definitely agree with the old saying, "You have to love yourself, before you can love someone else." Oh, it's an easy thing to say, but not always an easy thing to do, because we know our faults and if we didn't already, someone else in our lives have pointed them out to us! I appreciate the honesty in your post and applaud the changes you made with your self confidence. I find that sometimes it’s hard for me to ask for help when needed, that I should be able to do things on my own and without bothering someone else for assistance. I definitely agree with the old saying, “You have to love yourself, before you can love someone else.” Oh, it’s an easy thing to say, but not always an easy thing to do, because we know our faults and if we didn’t already, someone else in our lives have pointed them out to us!

]]> By: JJ Loch http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/04/30/verybadcat-how-low-self-esteem-almost-ruined-my-marriage/#comment-613 JJ Loch Thu, 01 May 2008 11:55:47 +0000 http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/04/30/verybadcat-how-low-self-esteem-almost-ruined-my-marriage/#comment-613 Great, candid post. Marriage is an interesting situation. It requires a melding together of two individual souls and letting go of two egos. Hard to do but worth the journey because sharing a life together enriches it. There is nothing like walking together hand-in-hand along a beach, feeling the wind ruffle your hair and the love warming your heart. :D Time to lean head on hubby's shoulder....in the visual picture. Hugs, JJ Great, candid post. Marriage is an interesting situation. It requires a melding together of two individual souls and letting go of two egos. Hard to do but worth the journey because sharing a life together enriches it. There is nothing like walking together hand-in-hand along a beach, feeling the wind ruffle your hair and the love warming your heart. :D

Time to lean head on hubby’s shoulder….in the visual picture.

Hugs, JJ

]]> By: Leah http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/04/30/verybadcat-how-low-self-esteem-almost-ruined-my-marriage/#comment-611 Leah Wed, 30 Apr 2008 16:29:32 +0000 http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/04/30/verybadcat-how-low-self-esteem-almost-ruined-my-marriage/#comment-611 Great post! I definitely see some touches of that in my marriage, and it's very important for me to acknowledge it and move forward. It was actually my own husband who pointed out to me once how far I had come since the beginning of our relationship. That was a big jump in self-esteem, but I've plateaued, I think before I'm ready. Great post! I definitely see some touches of that in my marriage, and it’s very important for me to acknowledge it and move forward. It was actually my own husband who pointed out to me once how far I had come since the beginning of our relationship. That was a big jump in self-esteem, but I’ve plateaued, I think before I’m ready.

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