Comments on: Self Esteem Week

By: janethesane

janethesane — Thu, 01 May 2008 03:42:00 +0000

I need to work on all of this. Bad memories or decisions will replay in mind at the oddest times. I hate when I am going along and everything is fine and WHAM a blast from the past tries to knock me over.

By: Zandria

Zandria — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 03:23:47 +0000

Isn’t it funny how we can forgive others easier than we can forgive ourselves? Sometimes I need to remember WHY it is that I shouldn’t think too highly of a person, when they really don’t deserve it (okay, yes, I’m talking about a guy). I just forgive so easily — but don’t worry, I DON’T forget. Not takin’ that loser back, no sirrreee…

By: Leah

Leah — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 22:49:21 +0000

I have improved with D a lot over the years. I have certain characteristics that I simply have to admit to, and just ask others to accept that about me. I tend to be a drama queen when a tough situation first arises. But I get it out of my system quickly. Usually, by the next day, I’m fine and ready to move forward with fresh ideas. It’s almost like I need the crazy time so that my head can clear itself all the way. I also admit out loud to anyone I may affect if I am tired and cranky. Sometimes just the acknowledgement to witnesses can help one to not revert to their habit behavior.

Great post! I can’t wait to read the guest posts!

By: kel

kel — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 17:45:35 +0000

Hooray for self esteem week!

You asked if we struggle with self forgivness and I think it’s fairly safe to say that I (like many others) do. One thing I noticed in your post is that you mentioned you have a hard time letting go of the past - I tend to do this, but over time it’s lessoned a bit. I find myself moving past this mistake/issue/screw up and letting go(at least that is what I tell myself) and I try to take the lesson that I’ve learned and not repeat it, however the next time I am faced with a similar situation I am that much more critical of myself than I was before. Not only do I relive the past (and all my negativity) over analysing every detail (trying to escape repeating it) I basically psych myself out. I know what doesn’t/didn’t work but I don’t always know what will work so I beat myself up about it.

Granted this is also a double edged sword because for all the negativity I can bring into my life, if I tackled a situation and won-you bet I’m going to relive that moment too…and that’s a pretty good self esteem booster!
~K

By: verybadcat

verybadcat — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 17:15:09 +0000

I’m worst about this when it’s a chronic bad habit. If I do something out of character, it’s a little easier to let go. I do something like ABCD, but for me, D is more like: “I know that I’m bad about…. (being late, being nasty when I’m hungry, procrastinating, etc.)… and that’s okay. I’ll continue to try and minimize the impact, but we all have faults, and this is one of mine, and that’s okay.

By: Crabby McSlacker

Crabby McSlacker — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 16:20:33 +0000

Great post!

My advice: get older. It’s amazing how much easier it is to let things drop and forgive yourself when you’ve had a few more decades under your belt. Eventually one realizes that everyone is human and it’s in our nature to screw up.

But if someone is impatient, yours are much better suggestions and they can help things a lot faster!

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 15:32:16 +0000

I’m overly critical of myself all the time. I can accept others mistakes at being human but I won’t allot the same way of thinking to myself.

What I’ve learned to do is keep telling myself it’s okay to make mistakes as long as I keep learning and do my best not to repeat them. Even if it’s hurtful towards another person, I’m a firm believer in karma and I try me hardest to always be mindful of that and to always own my accountability in any given situation even when I don’t want too!