Comments on: A Virtuous Woman: Humility http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/ Helping you find your purpose and navigate your quarter-life crisis in style Wed, 07 Jan 2009 01:02:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Leah http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-333 Leah Tue, 01 Apr 2008 13:11:32 +0000 http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-333 I know I have plenty of issues around this one, but one that bothers me about others is when people correct other people on their language use. Informal speech is just that. When people find out I have a degree in English, they smirk at me and say, "Oh no! Are you going to correct everything I say?" Why would I do that? As long as I understand you, I really don't care how you say it. I will correct children I'm related to, because they are learning. But I assume that adults have learned what they plan to learn in that area, and I'm not going to presume that they need me to teach them anything. When people correct others on their speech, they just look so pompous. It's a total turnoff. However, I felt my face turn bright red when I read the line about cleaning the house the right way. Yup, that's me. My husband is really lacking in the attention to detail department, so I find that it's easier to do all the cleaning myself so that it is done right. Of course, I fall behind often. So is it better to have someone clean more often, even if it's not all the way? Or get it done right, only not on so regular a basis? Hmmm, methinks my pride may have gotten quite in the way here... I know I have plenty of issues around this one, but one that bothers me about others is when people correct other people on their language use. Informal speech is just that. When people find out I have a degree in English, they smirk at me and say, “Oh no! Are you going to correct everything I say?” Why would I do that? As long as I understand you, I really don’t care how you say it.

I will correct children I’m related to, because they are learning. But I assume that adults have learned what they plan to learn in that area, and I’m not going to presume that they need me to teach them anything.

When people correct others on their speech, they just look so pompous. It’s a total turnoff.

However, I felt my face turn bright red when I read the line about cleaning the house the right way. Yup, that’s me. My husband is really lacking in the attention to detail department, so I find that it’s easier to do all the cleaning myself so that it is done right. Of course, I fall behind often. So is it better to have someone clean more often, even if it’s not all the way? Or get it done right, only not on so regular a basis? Hmmm, methinks my pride may have gotten quite in the way here…

]]> By: MizFit http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-332 MizFit Tue, 01 Apr 2008 09:44:19 +0000 http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-332 I ponder this one daily how to teach it to my toddler how to ever explain it well to her as a young girl is it simply showing through example? and how HARD that shall be... M. I ponder this one daily

how to teach it to my toddler

how to ever explain it well to her as a young girl

is it simply showing through example?

and how HARD that shall be…

M.

]]> By: JJ Loch http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-331 JJ Loch Mon, 31 Mar 2008 21:17:03 +0000 http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-331 Super post. Humility is the toughest. My pride shows itself in the kitchen when hubby is baking with me. I think I know better. :D He levels everything off to the last grain or drop. Drives me nuts. I throw ingredients in by eye. Hugs, Nancy Super post. Humility is the toughest. My pride shows itself in the kitchen when hubby is baking with me. I think I know better. :D He levels everything off to the last grain or drop. Drives me nuts. I throw ingredients in by eye.

Hugs, Nancy

]]> By: kel http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-330 kel Mon, 31 Mar 2008 17:42:34 +0000 http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-330 Funny the last virtue should be humility. After the weekend I had, I definitely could use some humility in my life, it is just so hard... ~K Funny the last virtue should be humility. After the weekend I had, I definitely could use some humility in my life, it is just so hard…
~K

]]> By: verybadcat http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-329 verybadcat Mon, 31 Mar 2008 13:44:49 +0000 http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-329 Yeah, I have a hard time figuring out the balance between too much and too little. I don't think I'm ever on the right side of that one. Yeah, I have a hard time figuring out the balance between too much and too little. I don’t think I’m ever on the right side of that one.

]]> By: Dawn http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-323 Dawn Sun, 30 Mar 2008 16:49:12 +0000 http://semicharmedwife.com/2008/03/30/a-virtuous-woman-humility/#comment-323 This is something I've been working on for the last year or so. One of my big goals is learning how to love unconditionally which has meant learning how to love strangers and people who are sometimes unloveable. Which has meant learning how not to look down on others. As someone who was never a "pretty" girl, I took pride in my intelligence and did tend to feel superior to people whom I thought to be less intelligent, intense, or serious-minded. People whom I believed to be frivolous and shallow. I've really learned a lot about humility from some of the very people that I thought I couldn't be friends with because I didn't think they were serious thinkers. I've learned about love and compassion and generosity and I am so thankful I opened myself up to the possibilities. Meanwhile, I've grown somewhat distant from someone I love due to that person's exacting standards and expectations of others. Before I changed, we used to joke about other people misusing words or saying stupid things or what they wore. Now my challenge is how to keep loving this person and have a meaningful relationship and not feel superior because I've become a goody-goody. I think what I've really learned through this process is that there is good in everyone if we're willing to look for it and that everyone is on his or her own path. None of us can judge anyone else. Sorry for the long comment. Hope I didn't ramble on too much. This is something I’ve been working on for the last year or so.

One of my big goals is learning how to love unconditionally which has meant learning how to love strangers and people who are sometimes unloveable.

Which has meant learning how not to look down on others. As someone who was never a “pretty” girl, I took pride in my intelligence and did tend to feel superior to people whom I thought to be less intelligent, intense, or serious-minded. People whom I believed to be frivolous and shallow.

I’ve really learned a lot about humility from some of the very people that I thought I couldn’t be friends with because I didn’t think they were serious thinkers. I’ve learned about love and compassion and generosity and I am so thankful I opened myself up to the possibilities.

Meanwhile, I’ve grown somewhat distant from someone I love due to that person’s exacting standards and expectations of others. Before I changed, we used to joke about other people misusing words or saying stupid things or what they wore.

Now my challenge is how to keep loving this person and have a meaningful relationship and not feel superior because I’ve become a goody-goody.

I think what I’ve really learned through this process is that there is good in everyone if we’re willing to look for it and that everyone is on his or her own path. None of us can judge anyone else.

Sorry for the long comment. Hope I didn’t ramble on too much.

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