Comments on: A Virtuous Woman: Charity

By: Kelli

Kelli — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 20:11:23 +0000

Hum, charity is something that I thought I did fairly well at (until you put it out there in its other forms.) I try not to judge others, I really do work on this, to each person their own. That being said, I still judge and often times find myself the recepient of someone else’s ill will and realize I don’t care what their situation. It is hard to be ‘charitable’ when someone else seems to be abusing the recieveing end.

Giving to a charity is easy, perhaps that is why I do this, why I associate charity with giving of a possession or time but not of giving anything else. The ability to give freely without judgement is the real charity, for all parties involved.

By: verybadcat

verybadcat — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 19:14:08 +0000

I’m a judger. A very bad judger. I wield the eyebrow of judgment at the drop of a hat. I’ve tried reminding myself that people are just trying to find their way in the world, just like me. Still, I judge.

You know what, though? I’m not much harder on anyone else than I am on myself, and it’s occurred to me lately that maybe if I was more forgiving of my own faults and mistakes, I wouldn’t have a knee jerk instinct to judge others so harshly.

Maybe charity starts at home.

By: Leah

Leah — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 19:03:27 +0000

I work on this one so much. Lately, I’ve even been saying at my restaurant job, “I hate that this job makes me judge people.” By that, I mean that I look at people who make choices that make them less desirable to me. The person who has been sitting at my bar all night both nights I work, yet talking ad nauseum about how her kids are her world. Just makes me wonder where her kids are when she’s drinking beer for 8 hours straight.

I do try to stay mindful of this. In coaching, it is paramount that we don’t judge our clients, and I try to extend that into my every day life.

Always a great reminder!